Preface to the Proposal

spacer How does one go about deciding to ask another person if they would like to spend the rest of their life with you? Me? I decided that on the night of our first semi-real date. I'm not sure why, but all of the sudden I had an overwhelming feeling of rightness. I could see the remainder of our lives together spread out before us like a red carpet, stretching into the future.

"I resolved to call her up,
a thousand times a day,
and ask her if she'd marry me,
in some old-fashioned way.
But my silent fears encrypt me,
before I reach the phone,
and before my tongue entrips me,
must I always be alone?"

spacer The Police,
spacer Every Little Thing She Does is Magic.
Sonya in the Sun

spacer So obviously I didn't ask her that first night- that would have been a little crazy. I mean, "Hey great date, can we do this again sometime, and maybe not stop next time?". No, I sat on it for a year or so. We dated and became very close friends, took a trip to San Fransisco together, had discussions about lots of things until 4 or 5 in the morning, and fell very fast in love with each other. Why over a year? We had talked often about relationships and both talked about how the giddiness of the first part of the relationship can mask things about the real relationship benath. I think we both felt that getting to know each other well and truly first was very important.
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