Preface to the Proposal
How does one go about deciding to ask another person if they would like
to spend the rest of their life with you? Me? I decided that on the
night of our first semi-real date. I'm not sure why, but all of the sudden
I had an overwhelming feeling of rightness. I could see the remainder of
our lives together spread out before us like a red carpet, stretching
into the future.
"I resolved to call her up,
a thousand times a day,
and ask her if she'd marry me,
in some old-fashioned way.
But my silent fears encrypt me,
before I reach the phone,
and before my tongue entrips me,
must I always be alone?"
Every Little Thing She Does is Magic.
So obviously I didn't ask her that first night- that
would have been a little crazy. I mean, "Hey great date, can we do this
again sometime, and maybe not stop next time?".
No, I sat on it for a year or so. We dated and became very close
friends, took a trip to San Fransisco together, had discussions about
lots of things until 4 or 5 in the morning, and fell very fast in love
with each other. Why over a year? We had talked often about
relationships and both talked about how the giddiness of the first part
of the relationship can mask things about the real relationship benath.
I think we both felt that getting to know each other well and truly
first was very important.
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